The Symbol of Care~

Em~ it seems like as I approach the end of my university life, my student life, my campus life~ many of the people around me are being tested

Friendship~

Relationship~

Exam results~


More often than not.. the tests left them (or is it us~) in despair~ in lament~


But everything happen for a reason...

I'm going to put the emphasize on relationship and friendship... And I'm going to tell this based on a story that I know and heard~


Well A and B have been together for so long... One day, out of the blue B cheated on A without A even knowing.. B changed from a loving and caring person to someone else, far different from the person A have known before.. A was patient with all the changes because A was not going to make a faulty decision without having any prove although A was well aware that A could be the 'stupid' one in this chapter..

So A went to seek help from fellow friends.. C and D.. C and D knew B cheated on A.. But they never say a word.. Not to B and Not to A.... Not an advice for B and not a single information about what B was doing behing A's back... Finally A found out about the cheat from someone else.. And it was too late for A to do anything... By the time A have known about the awful truth.. B have done a lot of bad things to A... So A chose to walk away for A only have prayers for B~

"A group of followers of the Prophet (s) asked him, ‘Is our Lord nearby so that we should talk to Him secretly, or is He far away, so that we should call out to him?’, and the following was revealed: And when My servants question you concerning Me — I am near, to them in My knowledge, and he informed them of this; I answer the call of the caller, by granting him his request, when he calls to Me; so let them respond to Me, My call to them to be obedient, and let them believe, [let them] persevere in faith, in Me that they might go aright, [that] they [might] become guided." Al-Baqarah:186

You see in this story... B became someone else... and B's friends didn't do anything about it... They just let B be because they didn't want to intervene in other people's matters.. But C and D didn't realize what B have done to A~ C and D are not to be blamed.. They didn't know how much they can contribute...

You see, sometimes our friends can go astray.. And if they are so... if you really love them.. Please don't let them be~

You might not just get your friend screwing up his or her own life.. But he or she might also be deteriorating other's life.. A simple word of advice will not harm your friendship if the connection built between two hearts is a pure and a sincere one...










And to those who are screwing up or is not realizing yourself screwing up~ when suddenly your friends become so cold, ask them what's wrong.. Or if you don't have the guts to do so, just reflect on your own what is it that changed them a lot~


The people who'd cared about you for so long will not suddenly change their way of treating you without a solid reason... It's up to you to mend it or to let it crush and crumble~ precious things are worth fighting for eventhough it would take some time...


The symbol of care~ when you see someone you care screwing up, help them to realize it and help them to stop it.. But if you can't, pray~ because that is the greatest tool ever.... Don't let them drift away~ please don't..




Daripada Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri radhiyallahu ‘anhu beliau berkata:

aku mendengar Rasulullah sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam pernah bersabda: Sesiapa dari kalangan kamu yang melihat kemungkaran, maka hendaklah dia mengubahnya dengan tangannya. Andai tiada kemampuan untuk berbuat demikian, maka hendalah dia mengubahnya dengan lisannya. Dan jika beliau tidak mampu untuk berbuat begitu, maka hendaklah (dikecam) dengan hatinya. Dan demikian itu adalah selemah-lemah iman [Hadith riwayat Muslim]